Gardens Are Only Beautiful When Different Plants And Flowers Are Included.
Gardeners know that different plants and insects in any garden fight each other for nutrients and resources. It takes considerable skill and knowledge to maintain a beautiful garden.
When basic human needs like food, safety and shelter are met, it is fundamental that humans will seek to thrive as oppose to just survive.
Wild forests are not gardens because every plant and creature in the wild operates on survival mode. Whereas gardens are planned. The plants and insects in a garden thrive because an intelligent human hand and spirit is moving them along in harmonious co-existence.
If we are able to treasure and appreciate the beauty of diversity in a garden, how is it then that we cannot find beauty in diversity of people who are lesbians, gay, transgender or asexual? I speak plainly when I say; I prefer the beauty of gardens over the austerity of deserts. I care for and believe in such “gardens”, I want to make sure that all the diverse “plants and insects” in these “gardens” actually thrive and live fulfilling lives.
While there is no set formula about how care can be administered to such a diverse and different set of people, with equally different needs; I have nonetheless, distilled them into 3 basic aspects.
Safe physical environment. This is the most fundamental. Like the example of the garden, the terra or soil must be right for my patients to feel safe. As such, I have taken pains to make sure that the environment of the clinic is safe for you talk openly and freely. I approach all issues from a loving and understanding manner; this is opposed to a clinical or critical manner.
Psychological and emotional anxieties are real. They range from depression, loneliness and low self-esteem to self- blame. These must be addressed and a certain degree of skill and sensitivity to such stresses are required. My central approach is to adopt an accepting attitude. I respect a person’s right and freedom to make his/her choices. In particular, choices about his/her own sexuality and sexual preferences. Consent and open communication is the bedrock here.
Physiological needs are no laughing matters. You should never feel embarrassed about your physical needs or physical issues. Your issues concerning orgasm, libido, pain, erection or ejaculation will be treated with utmost respect. There must never be any shame in this!