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Vaginismus (Painful Sex)

(Painful Sex)

100% curable. With Vaginismus, the muscles surrounding the vagina involuntarily spasm, causing discomfort or pain during vaginal penetration.

Vaginismus comes in many forms — some are mild, while others can be severe to the point that an insertion of a cotton bud can cause tremendous pain. Medical examinations may also cause discomfort.

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Sex and pregnancy is possible with vaginismus! All we need is a little bit of guidance to overcome this 100% curable condition.

Due to shame and embarrassment, many women who suffer from vaginismus are hesitant to discuss their condition or seek help for it. 

At Insync, our doctors understand that sharing details about your sex life and any difficulties may be arduous. We are here to guide you through with respect and patience, without rush.

What to expect in your first consult
(We’d love for partners to be present):

Treatment Options

We will work with you to determine the options that are most suitable for you.

To get women with vaginismus comfortable with penetration, start by inserting small tube-shaped dilators into the vagina. Gradually work your way up to larger dilators. We encourage partners to be involved in this process.

Botox is used to paralyse the spasming muscles at the entrance of the vagina. The muscles enter a relaxed state, and not be able to spasm again for the duration of the botox’s effect. Penetration now becomes painless. Oftentimes, this is paired with other therapies, so that botox seamlessly wears off and you are cured.

It is common to have fear and anxiety, when you have vaginismus. We will teach you the rhythm of mindful deep breathing exercises, and how to time penetration with these breaths helping you reduce the discomfort. This reminds you that you are in control.  

In some cases, tight pelvic floor muscles can cause vaginismus. We will have you to work hand in hand with a pelvic floor physiotherapist familiar with vaginismus issues, should this be the case.

Did you know that yoga could be used to open up your pelvic floor like the happy baby pose (Ananda Balasana)?

With vaginismus, it is important to realign how you approach sex. Counselling can help women better understand their body and sexual response cycle, as well as work through their anxiety. Importantly, sex therapy helps women cope with past trauma.

Let's talk about Vaginismus

We’re here to answer even the most sensitive and intimate questions. Take the first step, and we’ll take care of the rest.


Does vaginismus only occur in women who have never had sex?

No. Vaginismus can also be experienced by women who previously never had a problem with sexual intercourse. This is what we call Secondary Vaginismus.

Will vaginismus go away on its own?

Vaginismus is an involuntary, self-perpetuating condition that is not normally resolved on its own. When a woman with vaginismus attempts to have intercourse, the pain experienced heightens her fear of penetration and this then lowers the success rates of curing vaginismus.

However, vaginismus is 100% curable and I work with my patients to achieve this by breaking the vicious pain cycle associated with vaginismus.

How long does it take to treat vaginismus?

Every patient’s journey to recovery is unique, with its own set of challenges and triumphs. Typically, patients who are motivated and do not have significant complications can resolve their sexual pain or penetration problems in a few months.

Is it necessary to involve my partner during treatment?

We encourage partners to be involved during the treatment process. They will be taught how to facilitate your success through dilator therapy.

We also believe that having a present partner can help to provide the open communication and emotional support the both of you need to start enjoying sex again. We want to address your concerns and feelings of your partner as well.

Should I do kegels to manage vaginismus?

No! It particularly frustrates me when health professionals prescribe kegels for patients with vaginismus without a thorough assessment of the physical state of their pelvic floor. Here’s why kegels should never be done on a tight pelvic floor muscle.

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Lucas Rose
Lucas Rose
They were really good. I felt comfortable talking to them and I'm sure they can fix my issues.
Naomi Lim
Naomi Lim
Going to consult Dr Jess has gotta be one of the best decisions I've made in 2018. I'm always a little nervous when I visit a doctor or dentist but she puts me completely at ease. Like another reviewer put it, she truly engages with you and never makes you feel like your question is stupid (you know that feeling). I especially like how she's very upfront with the costs before prescribing or proceeding with anything. I've recommended her to my family and all my friends! Edit: Just wanted to add a shoutout to Dr Jess's team. Each of the ladies I've met in the last couple of years have been so welcoming and warm which calms my nerves while waiting to see Dr Jess or waiting for medication to be dispensed. I don't know why but appointment making can be quite an intimidating process for me but they've always been so kind and are always responsive.
Margoob Chowdhury
Margoob Chowdhury
Great place! I went there for some tests and one of the tests was taking it's sweet time at the lab. The clinic staffs opened a whatsapp conversation with me and started providing daily updates. I really appreciate their diligence, professionalism and proactive support. Highly recommend if need a GP in this neighborhood.
Nessa Swinn
Nessa Swinn
Dr Jess is great. Really helpful, patient and accommodating. Thank you also to Hani for the friendly service rendered.
Loh Wanping
Loh Wanping
No regrets calling up for a consultation to get our concerns sorted out! Lovely responsive team to work with and Dr Jess was professional, warm & friendly and answered all of our questions. Really appreciate the extra time she put in to talk to us. :) Thanks so much! Will highly recommend!
Malanai -
Malanai -
Dr Jess is an amazing doctor with a beautiful heart. What I really love about her is that is super realistic. She does not promise rapid/fake results. She is very humble and I really like it that spent her time to talk and explain to me about my condition in detail. I have been to so many other doctors for the same. They will just talk briefly and try to push me to start the treament on the spot / nurses will start discussing on pricing.Wasted my time and money in the wrong clinic before. However, Dr Jess is just different.She is not greedy. Very helpful and high level of professionlism and empathy.And her staff Hani is super sweet too. Customer service top notch. Sometime I send message so late when i need something urgently. Hani will still reply to me patiently. I am so lucky I finally found the best doctor and her assitant for my lady needs :) . I only have one regret-I didnt find them earlier.
Maria Lara
Maria Lara
I am soooooo glad I went here to have my concernssorted. I have no words how comfortable I am after she had me checked up. Her hands are very light aswell. It's like having a class about our body parts. She explained my result that I had back in Bangkok than the doctor I had there. How I wish there is someone like her that will make sure all our questions and concerns are answered. She's the best of best. Highly recommend her. Price is reasonable too. Just thank you Dr.Jess and her assistant Aisyah. Have a wonderful day always.
Lynn Tang
Lynn Tang
Dr Jess is great - she explains things well and is very patient and helpful.